When you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, it’s difficult to think about almost anything else – even the simplest of tasks. It’s common to feel indecisive. It’s common to feel uneasy. And it’s common to feel like your life will never be the same.

But life goes on and you need to go on too. Here are a few ideas to help you work through your grief.

 

Do

… find someone who will listen. A good listener will not tell you to just get over it. Find someone who is patient and kind. Someone who is willing to lend a shoulder to cry on. Someone who is happy to lend an ear.

… be patient. Grief doesn’t have a set timeline. It’s not completed in a day or a month or a year. It takes times, but as time passes your pain will begin to lessen.

… ask for help. It’s OK to reach out, even for the smallest of things. It helps to let those around you know that you need a hand. Find someone who can take on some mundane or basic tasks until you are yourself again.

 

Don’t

… expect to feel just one emotion. You’ll likely feel a range of emotions, from sad to mad to despair to happiness – and back again. Let yourself feel all these emotions. It’s part of the healing process.

… put on a brave front. Surround yourself with people who don’t expect you to always be strong. It’s OK to show that you’re grieving.

… isolate yourself. Grief is a lonely process, so don’t make is worse by alienating yourself. You need help to get you though this difficult time.

… push yourself. Grief can have a profound physical effect, so make sure you get enough rest.

… blame yourself. Survivor’s guilt can be difficult and a certain amount can be normal. But don’t continue to blame yourself for not being able to save or heal your loved one.

If you need help coping with grief, contact us by emailing [email protected].